When you are wondering where you donations go for Light the Night, take a look at this video. It really brings it home the importance of what our donations do for those who need the support. http://tinyurl.com/Armstrong-LTN
Of course, not all college students will get homesick when they go away to college. Many students adjust well, settle in, and have a wonderful experience. Some students may experience some homesickness, but their parents will never know about it. It may last a few days or a few weeks, the student will adjust and move on. But for some parents, the fear becomes reality. Their college student is homesick, miserable, and perhaps asking to come home. What is a parent to do?
Students may experience homesickness to varying degrees, although most probably have at least some of those feelings of longing for home. It is helpful for parents, and students, to understand that a certain amount of homesickness is completely normal. Students are dealing with unfamiliar situations, possible lack of routine and structure, loss of close friends, and readjustments of expectations. Some factors may increase the likelihood that your child may experience some degree of homesickness: no previous experiences away from home, difficulty making transitions to new situations, roommate issues, leaving a boyfriend or girlfriend at home, possible concerns about family members at home, or academic difficulties. One Dutch study, conducted in 2007, suggested that students with more involved parents tend to experience more homesickness; however, they may also have more effective coping strategies.
While recognizing that your college student may not be experiencing homesickness, parents may want to watch for signs. Your college student may tell you outright that she is homesick (girls are more apt to articulate these feelings than boys). Your student may call home more often or ask to visit home more than you expected. Your student may express dissatisfaction with everything and everyone at the school. Students may be especially worried about classes, especially anxious, have difficulty making decisions, or withdraw from social activities. Parents need to watch closely for any signs of serious adjustment difficulties or depression: excessive use of alcohol or food, excessive TV, internet or video game use. (Remember that all of these activities are normal, it is excessive use that may be concerning.)
Although homesickness may occur immediately, during the first few days or weeks of college; it may also occur around mid-semester. Don’t assume that your student won’t ever be homesick just because he does not experience it at the beginning of the semester. For some students, it may take until several weeks into the term before the novelty of the college experience begins to wear off, and the reality of studying and trying to find balance, begins to sink in. Midterm exams may exacerbate underlying feelings. In some areas of the country, the coming cold and gray of November weather may be a factor.
So if your college student does experience some degree of homesickness, at some point in the semester, is there anything that you, as a parent can do? Absolutely. Although you may feel helpless at times, here are a few suggestions to help you help your college student through this time.
As parents, we want our children to be healthy and happy – or at least well adjusted. When we sense that they are homesick or unhappy, our first tendency may be to rush to their aid and help them. As they work to adjust to college – and to a new form of adulthood – we may need to rethink how we support them. They still need us to be parents, to be there for them, but the form of that parenting may change. Homesickness usually gets better with time. Help your college student know that you are there, that you believe that she can and will adjust, and that she can take action to make things better.
For parents and students alike, it’s a good idea to think about the pros and cons of working part time while also considering the many job options beyond barista and bartender.
Beyond just getting a paycheck to help contribute to living expenses or tuition, students can gain valuable experience through a part-time job.
The post-graduation job market has been very competitive in recent years, and hands-on work experience can set a student apart from the rest of the stack of resumes. To help get the most long-term value from a college job, a student should focus on finding work that might be relevant to his or her career.
“There are merits to having a job,” says Tamsen Butler, author of The Complete Guide to Personal Finance for Teenagers. “If they can find something in the field they are studying, it can help with their resume.”
Butler points out that students can also get paid to do things they love – like teaching swimming or aerobics. It can serve as a nice break from a heavy school load while also providing some extra cash.
Schedule flexibility is another important consideration for any student weighing job options. Some of the best choices in this respect can be found on campus, where university departments frequently hire students and plan around their courses. The pay can be less than off-campus opportunities, but campus jobs can also help students network with professors and administrators who could help them find jobs after college.
Recent research has shown that working 20 hours or less each week during college actually has several benefits, including increased leadership and time management skills. The same research, based on findings from the National Survey of Student Engagement, found that grades earned by students working 20 hours or less were consistent with the grades of full-time students not working at all.
Despite the short- and long-term benefits of working during college, it’s definitely a choice that requires time and commitment. And some parents, especially those helping pay for their children to get an education, are understandably concerned that a job might detract from study time.
Time spent working isn’t just time that could be spent studying or partying. It’s also time that could be spent enjoying college experiences like football games, participating in student activities, learning professional skills, volunteering, or networking with peers and professors.
The discussion between parents and students about how to balance work and school doesn’t have to end once a job begins.
At the end of each grade period or semester, it’s worth taking the time to re-assess the work situation and decide if it’s having a negative impact on the student’s grades or mental well-being.
Parents should let the child know it’s not a sign of failure to stop working, reduce workload during the school year or pursue less-taxing work options, especially if the student is struggling with grades or adjusting to college life.